A friend in need

I had some bad news this week. My friend M (who I had previously written about on here), contacted me on Tuesday and told me she'd been dumped by the guy she started seeing after she split with me. I've not written about her at all since that last post, but we've both been able to put the split and the ensuing argument behind us. So we chatted online every now and then, so when she got unceremoniously dumped, she felt comfortable enough talking to me about it.

We chatted online, I commiserated with her, and wished I could do more for her. One friend to another, you know. I mentioned that I had some dvd's here that I'd been copying for her, and dropped a hint that what she needs was to take a break, curl up with a friend, drink a bottle of wine, and watch some dvd's. By Thursday afternoon, she'd come to the conclusion that she did indeed need a break, so I drove down to pick her up.

In the car on the way back she told about about what her ex had done, and the way he's done it. She also told me that she'd updated her profile on a couple of websites, and was getting some attention from men. She wasn't sure if she wanted any attention at the moment, or if she was just attracting the wrong sort of man again, and this is one reason why she agreed to take some time out and have a bit of a think.

Thursday night was spent with a chinese takeaway, the wine and the dvd's. Friday we chatted about the potential suitors she had on her tail. She was very open and honest with me, showing me emails they had sent, online conversations she'd had with them. We both sat and tried to work out if they were genuine or just predators. We listened to each other's opinions, we gave each other advice, and by the time I took her home on Saturday afternoon we both felt a lot more confident and upbeat. Her because she'd been able to put some of her fears to rest, me because the previous few days had been a boost to my confidence as well. Plus, it's good to be able to help out a friend in need, isn't it?